Thinking about getting a divorce? Below are 3 tips to get you through the emotional period.
We understand the horrific emotions and stresses our clients endure when they are getting a divorce. The heart break of letting go and the challenge to move from an ex-spouse can be a daunting and overwhelming experience. The sudden change and the feeling of emptiness whilst trying to sustain daily routine (eating, sleeping, working, raising children) is one of the greatest challenges we see our clients face during this period. Whether you have children or not, divorce or separation can still have a significant impact on your physical and mental health. Isolation, depression, anxiety, lack of energy, loneliness and lower self-esteem are some common factors experienced when a relationship breaks down. If you are the same way, you are not alone.
We generally find our clients feel the sense of guilt. The guilt from breaking up the family, the expectation of marriage being a lifelong wonderful journey, the effect it has on the children and the legal costs involved. Not all divorces take a dramatic turn; in fact some cases divorce can be a mutual decision for both parties and some couples tend to get along better after divorce.
3 tips to get through a divorce or separation
- Speak up- family and friends are your number one support system. They are there to get you through the bad days and carry you through the worst of days, therefore talk about your feelings with the people you are most comfortable with. Retaining your feelings does not reduce the severity of your emotional state, instead stimulates your stress levels and can cause further health problems. It is important to remember it is normal to be experiencing these emotional feelings so don’t try a fight them.
- Promote a better attitude- have a break from the negativity. Isolating yourself from this emotional period can influence a negative attitude. Of course you will have days where you want to be alone, just don’t make this a continuous habit. Be productive by taking up a new hobby, activity or job that allows you to restore focus, regain strength and improve well-being. Surround yourself with people who can help you promote a positive attitude.
- Embrace a new chapter- this is easy said than done, but not impossible and generally takes acceptance first before you can embrace a new chapter. Once you’re at this stage try to be adventurous. Do something you wouldn’t do (that is not against the law), write a bucket list of things you have always wanted to do, book a holiday to explore new countries and cultures. Don’t fear of taking risks or making mistakes.
We all make choices in our life that can sometimes result in fulfillment or failure. That’s life. We can’t predict what the future holds, but we can take it in our stride and empower ourselves to exploit curiosity and a willingness to live freely rather than defensively.
If you are seeking a divorce and would like to know how to apply for a divorce and the steps involved, contact the expert family lawyers at Armour & Allen. We are here to assist in the heeling process and ensure we meet your needs. We offer a first free 30 meeting at no cost and no obligation.